Bless your heart you are going through a lot at one time. As far as the surgical menopause, you need to read Dr. John R. Lee's book," What your Dr. may not tell you about premenopause" (or the one on menopause) he tells about needing to use natural progesterone (not synthetic like the Drs. put you on and not estrogen). You might find this book at your local library.

Start taking magnesium for the insomnia and the frequent urination. I had the same thing. I think that the f. u. is your body trying to balance the electrolytes by flushing out the excess things that it bothering it. Don't take calcium supplements and watch the salt-both make you need more magnesium. There are a lot of different forms out there you will have to see which one is best for your body, but oxide is not good, mg citrate brings water into the bowels, so if you are constipated that is oK. Taurate and malate are good forms, but can be hard to find. I use an ionized mg from mag-i-cal.com because it is cellular ready. I take 400mg at night (when your levels are the lowest) and 400 mg in the morning (2nd lowest time). Dark chocolate is a good source of mg also. Drink lots of water to help flush out the toxins and replenish your supply since you are urinating so much.

Good luck