A friend of mine had to have a hysterectomy at 23 and I wonder if it was the sterilization that played a part. But she also had an abortion at a young age, and that might have caused problems also.

I think I'm just going to take the view that if I do get married and get pregnant that it's meant to be, but I don't think I will ever plan a pregnancy. That might make me cold in the eyes of some people, and I have had a lot of stick for not wanting kids (being conservative Christian) but for me I think it is the responsible thing to do. I have suffered so much with anxiety and phobias that I have learnt to respect them and not to push myself.

But if I did get pregnant, I would try to be the best mother possible. I would like to adopt an older child at some point though, about 8 or 9, as it's very hard for them to get homes. But I'm not going to deliberately put myself in situations that I don't think I can cope with or am not ready for.