Originally Posted by Sean
^^^^ I agree it's about balance, control is key and at my young age I am still wreckless in ways and look at all kinds of women, I guess that might change if I get a serious girl or a Wife, but right now all women seem so attractive. When I look at a married woman (Like one of my friends at work) I do respect it though and don't really stare as much and feel bad if I do, I just think she is a beautiful strong woman and I respect her husband and kids, thats how I look at things, they are not lustful to me anymore and I have controlled that part of me (5 YEARS AGO FORGET IT LOL, I was wreckless). I need to seriously slow down and get control over certain things in my life, I guess that is starting to happen as I get older and start thinking more and being more of a man, these things become a little more easy to control as far as lust goes (When you are young forget it). I guess society just tames the kids to look at girls in tight shorts and the way they dress and think this and that is okay is just instilled in kids minds and thats the way it's supposed to be, or so they THINK. Sex is heavily promoted all over, from music to TV to magazines, all things young men and women see. I am trying now, tough road to kick some things but in the end I bet this brother will be a better one.


I know Sean. I think it is hard for girls cause there is so much pressure for them to BE sexy, (competition for my poor daughter is cut throat - she is beautiful - she really is - but doesn't have all the "3 B's" (Blonde, butt and boobs as they say : ) (She is small chested). I am not big either, but proportional. I like myself....(and most importantly my husband assures me TO HIM I'm beautiful...). My daughter has to compete, too, with girls who are sexually active. She is winning, though, with the guy she likes right now because they are forming a true friendship and learning how to be TRULY intimate that way.... (And she's learning that she is much more than a body....) but I've always thought it would be really hard to be a boy now days. If I had a son I'd likely be even more protective of him than I feel with my girls!! I see how the girls act. We had a pep rally the other day and just the dance team is pretty outrageous. I've seen the guys just watching them hypnotized. Either that, or they're gay : ) OR they try not to watch. If the guys try to stay clean they deal with all the "locker" (or even classroom) talk and girls in their faces. The internet porn sites are a click away.... TV is unbelievable. They sell everything with sex. Victoria's Secret commercials would have been banned just a decade or so ago. The truth is, though, it is so in your face it starts detracting from it! I would quite honestly hate to think I could flounce around in something revealing and barely get noticed! But I see it happen at school! (On the other hand, though, I've seen the poor kids try to keep their eyes off them especially in the younger grades). The older ones seem jaded almost, though. Then there are the trust issues which these kids are NOT ready to deal with. No one in high school is ready for a committment yet they are giving themselves fully to each other without that...and what does that do to you when rejected or thrown away for someone cuter?

My niece who is now about 34 told me at the same high school I'd gone to just 14 years before, it was no big deal how many partners you'd had as long as it was monogamous at the time.... (They pretty much traded around). We had a name for that when I was in school. But its nothing now. They still call each other names, but it doesn't stop most. I wasn't always an angel, but was pretty innocent I realize now. I think in a way getting raped at 13 was a blessing cause it brought me to a grinding halt on trying drinking and made me afraid of guys..... I had a group of 15 year old animals, I mean, boys today in class : ) WOW... I really do feel for all the kids these days.