If a husband feels that he is loseing control of his speech,
he can learn to call a time out.

Perhaps it would be wise to leave the room, go for a walk,
or find a private place to cool down.
{ Proverbs 17:14} says

Before the quarrel has burst forth, take your leave."
Resume the discussion when tempers have settled.
Of course, no one is perfect.

A husband who has a problem with harsh speech may relapse.
When this happens, he should apologize.

Putting on " the new personality "
is a continueing process but one that reaps large rewards.
{ Colossians 3:10}