It is not a sign of manliness for a husband to be verbally aggressive when upset.

The Bible states:
" He that is slow to anger is better than a mighty man,
and he that is controlling, his spirit than one capturing a city."
{ Proverbs 16:23 }

A real man controls his spirit.

He shows empathy by considering:
How do my words affect my wife ?
How would I feel if I were in her position.
{ compare Matthew 7:12 }

The Bible acknowledges, although, that some situations can provoke anger.

About such circumstances the psalmist wrote:
Be agitated, but do not sin.
Have your say in your heart, upon your bed, and keep silent."
{ Psalm 4:4 }

It has also been stated this way:
" There is nothing wrong with being angry,
but it is wrong to verbally attack by being sarcastic, humiliating or demeaning. "