Getting Help

But what can a wife do if her husband still refuses to acknowledge the problem ?

At this point some wives seek outside assistance.
In times of such distress, people can approach their congregation elders.
The Bible urges these men to be loveing and kind when shepherding the spiritual flock of God and , at the same time,
to " reprove thoses who contradict " the helpfull teachings of " God's Word ".
{ Titus 1:9 } { 1 Peter 5:1-3 }

While it is not their place to meddle in the personal affairs of married couples ,
the elders are rightly concerned when ones mate is afflicted by the harsh speech of the other.
{ Proverbs 21:13 }

Closely adhering to Bible standards, theses men do not excuse or minimize abusive speech*
* To qualify to serve or to continue serving as an elder, a man is not to be a smiter.
He cannot be one who strikes people physically or browbeats them with cutting remarks.

Elders and ministerial servants are to preside over their own households in a fine manner.
No matter how kindly he may act elsewhere , a man does not qualify if he is a tyrant at home.
{ 1 Timothy 3:2-4,12 }

The elders may be able to faciliate communication between
husband and wife.