Bringing the Problem to Light

Obviously , an offender will not change unless he clearly understands that he has a serious problem.

Unfortunately, as one counselor observed , many men who use abusive speech
" Do not view their behavior as abuse at all.

To theses men , such actions are entirely normal and are the " natural " way husband and wives relate ".
Thus, many will not see the need to change untill the situation is straightforwardly brought to their attention.

Oftentimes, after prayerfully weighing her situation , the women will feel compelled to speak up --
for her own welfare and that of her children and out of her concern for her husband's standing with God.

True, there is allways a chance that speaking up may make matters worse and her words may be met with a volley of denials.

Perhaps a wife can circumvent this by giveing careful forethought to how she will broach the subject,
" As apples of gold in silver carvings is a word spoken at the right time for it,"
says the Bible.
{ Proverbs 25:11 }

A mild yet frank approach at a calm moment may reach his heart.
{ Proverbs 15:1 }