From Words That Hurt to Words That Heal

" Death and life are in the power of the tongue ."
-- Proverbs 18:21

Reviling-- a deliberate practice of useing insulting, abusive speech-- is clearly condemned in the Bible.
Under the Mosiac law, one who reviled his parents could incur the death penalty.
{ Exodus 21:17}

Thus Jehovah God does not view the matter lightly.

His Word, the Bible, does not support the notion that whatever happens " behind close doors "
is of little consequence as long as one claims to serve God.

The Bible states : " If any man seems to himself to be a formal worshiper and yet does not bridel his tongue ,
this man's form of worship is futile."
{ James 1:26 } { Psalm 15:1,3 }

So if a man verbally abuses his wife, all of his other Christian works could be considered worthless in God's eyes.
{ 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 }

Furthermore, a Christian who is a reviler could face expulsion from the congregation.
He could even lose out on the blessing's of God's kingdom.
{ 1 Corinthians 5:11; 6:9,10}

Clearly, a person who is hurtfull with his words needs to make a drastic change.

But how can this be accomplished ?