Of course, parental influence does not excuse lashing out at others, verbally or otherwise ;
but it does help explain how a tendency toward harsh speech can be deeply ingrained.

A young man may not physically abuse his wife , but does he abuse her with his words and mood ?

Self- examination may reveal to a person that he has absorbed his father's contempt for women.

Obviously, the above principles can also apply to women.

If a mother verbally abuses her husband,
a daughter may treat her husband in the same way when she gets married.

A Bible proverb says: "It is better to be liveing in a waste land, than with a bitter tongued and angry women."
{ Proverbs 21:19, the Bible in Basic English }

Neverless, a man needs to be particularly cautious in this matter.

Why ?