A controlling partner may use any or all of the following forms of social, physchological and sexual abuse.

* Isolation: Power and control are manitained by isolating his wife from her family and friends.
He tries to control what she does , who she see's and talks to, where she goes.

* Economic Abuse: " The controller makes her ask for money, keeping her on an allowance.
Any money she makes , he takes.

* Threats : He may make or carry out threats to hurt her emotionally, such as a threat to commit suicide.
He may threaten to take the children or report her to welfare.

* Intimidation: Fear tactics are used to intimidate her, such as shouting or useing certain gestures and looks.
He may smash things and destroy what belongs to her.

* Emotional Abuse: He criticizes everything she does. He puts her down, calls her names.
He plays mind games , trys to make her think she's crazy.

* Sexual abuse: He treats her like a sex object , makeing her do sexual things against her will.
He may allso have affairs with other women.

* Useing Children: He makes her feel guilty about the children.
If he and his wife or seperated, he may use visitations as a way to harass her.

( Forms- of-abuse information is from,
Haven House's guide, "Surviving Domestic Violence. " )