Trying To Change Him

In any event, it is not your responsiblity to make your boyfriend change.

Irena admits: " You think that you love him, that you will manage , and that you can help him.
But you simply cannot. " Nadine likewise confesses:

" I keep thinking that I can change him. " The truth is, only he can ' make his mind over ' and change.
{ Romans 12:2}

So be firm in your decision, turning a deaf ear to any efferts he might make to play on your emotions.
Try to put as much distance between you and him as possible-- emotionally and physically.

Do not allow him to talk, beg, or threaten you back into a relationship.
When Irena broke up with her violent boyfreind, he threatened to kill himself.

Clearly, such a person needs help, but not your help.
You help him best by takeing a stand against unchristian behavior.

If he wants to change, he is free to seek help.