I use one of course, but don't like having it by my head long. Its not fear of all that...just doesn't feel right and gets hot. I really don't trust much out there, but at the same time can't live in a bubble. I use to date a guy - a chemical engineer who'd been in an explosion so had some issues. Sounds so dumb but we use to go buy carrots and eat brown rice with mayo together. Had a platonic relationship and then he practically jumped me one day and scared me so I went to my now husband who I was afraid to marry being the musician that he was and decided to marry him : ) (He respected my standards). Actually me and the chemical guy went to petroleum laboratory school for the military together. Anyway - he wanted to live w/o electricity. He was kind of eccentric, but I do wish sometimes things were simpler. It was better then in a lot of ways. Harder too... Also dated a guy from Alabama who married an Indian. He wanted to live in a cabin in the wild. He was an avid hunter. That is cool if you kill to eat, but he was into the sport of it. My husband won't even kill anything to eat. I wished he would've bagged a moose in Alaska - but love him the way he is. (Moose is very good lean healthy meat and I do need some red meat - tried vegetarianism - didn't work for me). My hubby makes friends with the squirrels and rabbits in the yard and then has to go mow the lawn in the back with the growing number of rabbit holes. They sit out their and guard their young. He said one day when he took the big monster (to them) John Deere out there he could see shivering fur hovering just below the hole... Then he sprinkled carrot sticks all around the holes. I want a garden and as much as I, too, love the furry critters, I once murdered a vole who I couldn't get rid of with more humane tactics. I was trying to grow a garden up there - hard enough - and it was me or them... I will take measures to protect my garden.... (Actually I think its sweet how my hubby is...not sure what led to that).

Sorry...anyway - it isn't easy dodging all the garbage out there and it can be a confusing time to grow up. My advice is to keep em talking.. I have very close, open relationships with mine. They need to talk. Need helped along the way as they deal with things we know isn't a big deal but is to them.