hi james l : have you looked into either holy basil or kava kava they both have very calming effects i have tried kava kava in the past and can say that it makes you very calm and may relieve some of the shyness problem , as for holy basil , my sister uses it for her anxiety , she says that it is the only thing outside of presciption drugs that really help her stay calm

holy basil is an adaptagenic herb which helps your body work at a balanced level