"You could always wait untill the day,&see how you are feeling"

It is a formal dinner and they need to notify the caterer in advance how many will attend.

"The way I see it is that you are not obligated to attend anything,you need to look after your health first,it's so important,and you should not be pressured into doing anything you don't feel comfortable about.


I wish it was that simple. To be honest, even if I was completely well I would not want to go to her family's events. I feel out of place there. The chemical sensitivity has caused me to miss a number of things I didn't want to miss, and to be forced to suddenly leave certain events that I thought would be okay to attend due to low attendance when I was feeling very sick from cooking odors or perfumes, colognes, etc. These odors can have a very nasty effect on me and suddenly make me go from feeling great to having muscle ache, a headache, or trouble breathing properly.