To all the genuine sufferers and friends on the forum who have private posted me this week to say they cannot stand any more being slagged off and reading crap, who have now no choice but to leave this forum, well I tried for all of us , but I have to admit defeat and you are all right. I t's not for us any more. As agreed we can continue to private post each other for support and tips how to get well. Not prepared, the same as all of you, to waste another ounce of energy. It's a damn shame, but may all us not lose our faith and love and support for each other. Speak to you as often as possible real sufferers and friends. Love you Tracy. P.S. All you other so called sufferers happily carry on with your bitterness and condeming and God help you, cos you've caused an immense amount of anguish to people with true loving hearts. You can all reply to this thread till your blue in the face, not one single true sufferer will give a damn. You have stolen some of my best friends place of hope and sanctuary. Live with youselves. I'm sure you'll all find this incredibly easy as you all seem to care about nobody but yourselves. Congratulations you've got control enjoy!
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Tracy, to whom are you addressing this? If people are upset about something here, why don't they post about it? There have obviously been embittered clandestine discussions going on but no indication of this until it explodes in this new thread. If so many people were upset, why didn't they say so? Do you really think everyone else here wouldn't care and would completely ignore them?

I think it's unfair to a lot of people on the forum to categorise them as either loving sufferers who have been put off by something here, or uncaring time-wasters who do not suffer. If someone really has a problem I think they ought to post about it, or contact Russ. Like I've said, there have been disagreements, sometimes heated, in one or two threads. I don't see anything different about other threads here. If anyone would like to clarify or contribute to this, please feel free because I have to admit I am mystified.

Linda.

I think you are being a drama queen, that other thread you just made (HELPFUL POINTS GETTING LOST) everyone was supportive to your post, then suddenly you decide to leave out of nowhere?

Trust me, this is probably the most positive forum I have ever seen, you will never find a better one
You probably should take a break, but keep checking since the amount of information in here is amazing
Good luck with your symptoms

I have posted regularly in two other forums so far. I belong to some others but traffic is slow there; I like to be where people are really talking.

One forum is full of info that I feel is very important. However it's hard to have a voice because the list owner reads everything and approves it for posting. That is necessary for that particular forum but it curtails freedom to discuss too.

On another forum i have been posting for almost 3 years. I have got into my fair share of disagreements. I advocate anti-drugs and alternative medicine there and have occasionally been gang-lambasted when I have tried to help people. No doubt the ones there who are mega-pill-poppers really hate what I am saying, and they do tell me how my so-called advice upsets them, is illogical, encourages people to distrust their doctors (heaven forbid), makes me sound like I have all the answers, ad nauseum . . . I do not stop my occasional posts there just to please them. I also do not start inflammatory discussions, and if someone wants specific help with psych drugs I usually PM them now.

My main point here, again, is that topics which may upset people are confined to a few threads which people are free to choose to read. If someone is upset enough by something to be willing to quit the forum then I think it's important that people hear about it. I know that when a person is ill and suffering it can be hard not to get emotional about things, I've been there too. But there's a line that needs to be drawn, I think, between speaking freely and stepping on someone's toes (it happens), and writing something that is personally very offensive. Any number of topics are potentially upsetting to people, as many topics as there are members of this forum probably, so which of them are we going to ban in order to protect everyone?

If people are resorting to actual name-calling then I think they ought to be reported to the moderator. People here, on the whole, seem to be good about that sort of thing. I do actually see a lot of respect and support here. I can't see any place where anyone has flamed you recently Tracy, I think people here feel for you and are sad to see you going through so much suffering. I don't know why people you know are quitting the forum or why you feel we are responsible for making you lose your friends, could you not explain more about what the actual issue is?

Tracy:

My love goes out to you - even if you leave, I will still pray that good things happen for you.

Don't let anyone get you down. It's all inside you, you decide how you will react. If anyone upsets you, remember it's an opportunity to express love back. An attack is a call for love, even if those who do so, do not recognize what they are doing. The extension of your loving thoughts here is the only reality you will find in this world. My silly opinion, but this is where you start to find true health.

I hope you stay, I have found a lot of good things in your posts. You have much to offer all of us going through this. I would be a liar if I said I have not suffered from this immensely.

TW

That's lovely TW. I totally agree <img src="/ubbthreads/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I think you are being a drama queen, that other thread you just made (HELPFUL POINTS GETTING LOST) everyone was supportive to your post, then suddenly you decide to leave out of nowhere?

Believe me if I'm a drama queen then so are many more. Sorry I'm sticking to my guns. It'a not some sort of joke or exageration, I have received private posts from beautiful, intelligent and caring people , who truly have had enough. Sorry you feel this need to judge what I've spoken on behalf of myself and others. It's too difficult to pick out the helpful points, cos they keep getting lost. I feel no malice to anyone, but again have been criticed. Drama Queen, no sorry just feel a great sympathy toward others who were coming on in great personal sufferering only to do good. Wish you all the luck in the world with your recovery. Tracy

Tracy, you seem to have come so far in the last several months, I have noticed big improvements by reading your posts and it makes me so happy. Please don't leave, I love watching people get better. Just ignore the BS, there will be trolls everywhere we go, and we need to keep this place up and running for all the mercury poisoned sufferers that have no where else to turn.

Best love,
Sandi
xoxo

Like Tracy, I have received a couple of emails privately as well by people who left because of the growing amount of debating/hostility on here. Perhaps it is harder for those toxic to cope because one is that much more vulnerable...? For me being ill with this, I tend to find that anything negative too easily becomes very large in my mind.

I know people leave forums for personal reasons, it happens on many forums. You cannot please everybody, but it is certainly a shame if this becomes a growing trend on here. I hate to see that, this forum stands out and I have pretty much remained on here like a permanent resident and very much value the people I have met here.