Actually this forum is immensely positive, when people make threads and are ready to lose it I always find positive comments from everyone

What you can do is just not click the threads where there is debating of touchy issues
Discussing when there are very different views has to be by default more aggressive, and I'd rather have that than hypocrisy self-apologetic arguing pretending to be nice. It is boring and pointless, people should say what they think

However if your post is referring to threads where people are in trouble, then yes you are completely right