No intention of insulting or offending any one here because I feel you've all got some intelligent and helpful things to say, but recent events have confirmed to me what a waste of time bickering and disagreeing is. I know I'm suffering grief still and a huge amount of stress, but I'm finding some of the threads hard to follow and the helpful points hard to pick out because of all the other arguments and stuff that is going on. As I said I 'm not judging or trying to insult anyone, just would be nice if we all respected each other's views and kept to the point. Can't say I havn't been free of doing this sometimes, but perhaps brain fog is bad and as I said all the helpful points are getting lost to me among a lot of stuff I can't follow. Sorry guys need to keep things a bit simpler for me at present.. Love to you all Tracy. P.S Doing pretty crap, sleep and nightsweats a huge problem any helpful hints would be much appreciated.