yep Linda you were almost right. Hate to think someone in my family felt they had to speak on my behalf, but quite frankly I just don't care any more. I received the most upsetting private post from someone on here, last night, who has a heart of Gold. It finally made me realise no matter what I say nothing will stop the bickering and the upset it's causing others. Ok you may say we have a chioce what we read, but why should we have to pick our way through threads to find useful information. I could name at least half a dozen people not posting any more. I feel no malice towards anyone, just a sorrow that we all use to be such friends, but I don't and have never liked sarcasm and needless rude comments. This is a difficult world as it is. It's my own choice to use a different forum, one that so far as only shown kindness to all members. It just suits me better. Thats my nature and as I say my chioce. I'll come back to private post friends, although some I speak to on the phone. I hope sincerely you all come to some peaceful resolution and make peace with each other. Love Tracy