I don;t know that you can get an answer to this from a theistic perspective Tracy. You are essentially asking why a loving god would let good things happen to bad people and bad things happen to good people. It's one reason why I no longer personally believe in a divine being, it just doesn't make sense. Like I said, from my point of view, things just happen, and what matters is what we make of them.

Aaron, I see that you are having a hard time. I'm sorry I got snappy. I am having a "mercury moment" this evening and am in an irritable mood. However, I think your healing will be greatly facilitated if you take a look around and see the positives in the world. They will be easier to see when you are well.

Linda.