Yes, I find it helps to remember that "this is not me." My husband hasn't seem "me" for 3 years and my daughter barely knows "me." I want her to have a mummy who is not tired and irritable, struggling to play or do much of anything. And she will. At the moment, well, you guys said it. Just getting through, day to day. I find it's almost impossible to explain to people who haven't been through it.