hi, i'm not a parent, but have lost a child, when i was 19, as in they died, don't be hard on yourself. do simple things, kids love it, even if you can't feel it, if there is a smile on their face, u may feel u r missing out but they won't. you are their whole world. just as long as they KNOW how your feeling isn't their fault, which could happen automatically, they will be happy, i think!!!!!!!!!!!! its totally up to you but i would somehow maybe even directly tell them a lot how you are feeling if it's bad isn't because of them. i never wanted kids until i got mercury poisioned, so now i do (age 27) and wonder if anyone will ever want me, cuz i don't communicate well, but it has made it so i at least am sure its what i want, so.. something good came of it.

all love to you and your family, and the child especially you speak of