I feel sick for you too.

Big problem there, sounds like a large part of the problem. I have no idea how to clean the room well. I would not sleep in there.

You can get a OSHA regulation charcoal cartridge respirator at most good paint stores, try an automotive finishing store if the paint store doesn't carry anything that heavy duty (probably about $40-50.00 these days). If it were my house, I would wear that mask to clean it. Maybe a search on yahoo will give you some ideas about what to clean it with.