I'm in my 30's now and never had a relationship. I have always held back for feelings of inadequacy, due to my mental problems and physical limitations - but also to not meeting the right person. I too have been extremely depressed about being single and the thought of always being so has got me down - but I try not to think that I never will meet someone anymore, or to focus on what I "can't" offer, but what I "can". I do think it is a lot in our heads (by that I don't mean our fault, but how mercury has muddled our brain) because people with illness and disabilities get married all the time. So, for me the biggest challenge is in my head - to say myself and others "I am what I am" and to believe that I am loveable and desirable romantically.

The world today has a very messed up version of love. We are constantly bombarded with the message we must be perfect to be loved. It's a message we have to de-condition ourselves from and fight against, because no one is perfect, and even if they are perfect physically, their personality may leave a lot to be desired.